Wednesday March 12, 2008 | 1 comment
In every healthy marriage, there are disagreements. Most of these are settled in minutes and just a few last longer than an hour. Once every decade or so, though, a Major Disagreement surfaces. These usually are the result of failing to communicate over a long period of time, and are resolved by the analogy of peeling an onion: layer by layer until the essential center is laid bare. Tears may be shed.
Once that essential hot center layer is revealed, take a few moments to reflect. While you are wondering how it “ever got so crazy”, make a pot of tea. Pay attention to the steeping time, and serve a cup of perfect tea to your mate. Sip and savor before you address the odorous central problem sitting in front of you. Work to keep the discussion in the “here and now.” Pour yet another cup, give each layer it’s due measure, and move on.
Make a point of drinking tea together more often. It might be two decades before you’re peeling that onion again.
[photo credits: main post image by PicDisk at www.flickr.com; couple by ValerioY2K at www.flickr.com]